SEXUAL ASPECT OF MARRIAGE: EROTIC ZONES
A study of the erotic zones of the body is also of great importance. A
husband should know that the nipples and the areas immediately surrounding
them are well endowed with delicate, sensitive nerve-end organs. They are
sensitive to gentle tactile stimulation. The supra-pubic region (between the
pubic bone and the navel, where the pubic hair is located) is also
sensitive. The outer parts of the thighs are likewise sensitive, along with
the ear, the ear-lobe, the neck (especially the nape of the neck). These
differ from woman to woman, and it is the husband's responsibility to find
the area of greatest response.
Of course, it should be clearly understood that none of these areas are
the most sensitive. However, they should not be neglected; they should be
the focus of attention before the supremely sensitive areas are stimulated.
The closer one gets to the vulval region and the vaginal entrance, the more
sensitive the area and the more responsive the reaction. The inner surfaces
of the thighs, for example, are more sensitive than the outer areas, but
nothing is quite so sensitive as the clitoris. This is the very small organ
(of varying size, but hardly larger than a pea) located a short distance
above the vaginal opening. Often it is necessary to gently part the outer
lips of the vulva (called the labia major, or outer lips) to gain access to
it.
In the clitoris are millions of ultra-sensitive nerve-end organs that are
receptive to gentle, tactile stimulation. It should be stressed that time
should be taken over this period of arousal. It cannot be repeated too often
that a woman is not sexually aroused as quickly as is a man, generally, and
it is axiomatic that, the more the wife is aroused, the better for both
husband and wife as the climax to the time of love-making approaches.
Every husband should show the utmost consideration for his wife's wishes
in this most intimate moment of marriage. If there is some aspect of the
fore-play or the act of intercourse itself that she does not like, the
husband should be quick to abandon this, and concentrate on those aspects of
the love-making process which she appreciates and enjoys. The husband should
treat his wife at all times (in bed and out of it) with courtesy,
consideration and deference; however, at no time should she feel more loved,
more the centre of his affection, more an object of love than when the
husband is bringing her to the climax of this most tender of emotional
experiences.
Couples who truly love each other will have but one desire basic to their
moments of intimacy; it is that the other should experience the very
greatest pleasure. Never should intimacy be indulged in so aggressively by
either husband or wife that the other feels used -
a mere sex object. Never should there be an ending to the love-making when
one or the other (or both) feels frustrated, emotionally drained or
wretchedly unsatisfied. It is true that, in the early days of marriage this
unfortunate state of affairs can occur, but here is the supreme example of
the need for courtesy, consideration and common sense. Here is where
communication -
frank, open and honest
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